https://www.facebook.com/acosta.alicea.1441
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- Sergeant at U.S. Army
- Lives in Charlotte, North Carolina
- Single
- From Nashville, Tennessee
AND
https://www.facebook.com/acosta.alicea.1485
Assistant captain at United States Marines


AND
https://www.facebook.com/calhoun.mike.7
AND
https://www.instagram.com/acosta_alicea_/
FERDINAND ALICEA
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THE REAL MAN HAS A FB PAGE AND INSTAGRAM PAGE..
'CIRIO ARMAN'..
Cirio Arman CHEROKEE UNIFORMS BRAND AMBASSADOR NO.11 FAST LIFE OWNER Greek & Puerto Rican #taken
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Update. He went by Brian, but once he asked me if I had a lot of experience with military men the flag went up, he's blocked and unmatched from on OKC. Used the name Brian, but he shouldn't post a military photo with "his" name on the uniform, this is after I told him I have actually dated military men and any sniff of fake he'd be dropped. Here's a bit of the conversation.
+1 (210) 948-3459:
A friend of mine introduced me to see if I could meet the right woman of my dreams
Well I don’t prefer a single life cause it’s so boring for me to be single
I am currently on a deployment in Syria now for a mission to keep peace
I am a single father of a son
Me:
It's early in Syria. [me thinking hmmm you have time to text at 4 am while on deployment??? I don't think so]
+1 (210) 948-3459:
Yep
Me:
Who watches your kiddo? Or is he grown?
+1 (210) 948-3459:
A friend and he is just 4
Me:
That must be hard.
+1 (210) 948-3459:
Yes
+1 (210) 948-3459:
That’s why I need a partner to love me for me a partner I can lean on and trust my son and everything with
[ahhhhh no, goodbye.]
First off, a quick message for those who have been scammed. Don't be too hard on yourself. Scammers succeed even against intelligent people. They exploit human vulnerabilities.
No, I did not get scammed by this guy posing as Acosta. But I was approached by him (oh yes, they're on the gay dating sites too. They will target any man or woman for money). Fortunately I realized quickly it was the setup for a scam, and I ghosted him (or her, who really knows?).
However, I wasn't always so adept at recognizing scams. There is a learning curve, and a certain destruction of innocence you must undergo. You need to learn to be a skeptic. You will learn some scams are well done, and some are obvious. (UN)fortunately there is an abundance of scammers, so you will all gain experiences sooner or later and will become better skeptics with time.
Shortly after coming out, I joined some dating websites (this was over 10 years ago now, and apps weren't quite there yet. New platform, same mess.). Almost immediately, I was pulled into a very sweet correspondence with an achingly beautiful man. I loved the attention he gave me. I dismissed it when small inconsistencies cropped up in his story. I rationalized how things might be true. Eventually the inevitable happened. He asked for money (Western Union, of course). It was so he could purchase a plane ticket to visit me (of course). This should sound very familiar to everyone on this thread.
Good news is, I didn't send him anything! I have never sent any of them any money. This is an iron-clad rule you must set for yourself! NEVER SEND THEM ANYTHING OF VALUE!
It hurt. I was forced to see the illusion for what it was. It was a painful learning experience. But I'm a stronger person for making the right decision, and being skeptical is an important life skill.
I could have maintained the illusion longer if I had sent the money, but I would have only delayed the inevitable. The money would have been gone. He might not have been - he might have stuck around with some excuse as to why the money was gone but he never appeared. And then he would have tried for more money.
Bottom line, the MOMENT you see them steering the conversation towards you sending them something of value (wire money, gift card, etc.), you have to walk away from them. Don't bother confronting them. Don't let them spin a new illusion for you. The illusion can feel addicting. We all want to be liked by someone we find attractive. You need to break free from this illusion! It will hurt, but you will be stronger and thank yourself for the tough decision later.