ROMANCE SCAMS AND THE WAY THE
ABUSER/SCAMMER WILL
BRAINWASH THEIR VICTIM.
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What is Brainwashing / Gaslighting however you want to call it.
It means a person's beliefs, understanding and behaviour can be changed by another. Most often someone they love.
THE MOST VULNERABLE TO BRAINWASHING ARE:
the recently bereaved
those ill, been recently ill or are have an illness themselves, or recovering.
THE LONELY.. and remember you can be lonely in a crowded room, depends on how you feel.
THOSE WHO FEEL THEY HAVE LOVE TO GIVE, BUT NOBODY TO GIVE IT TO.
TO START TO BRAINWASH THEY NEED TO GET YOUR FULL ATTENTION... Quickly ! Kindness, sweet words and very often flattery, and being interested in you.
As the day go by they will try to keep you from friends and family. They will test your obedience, close your account, give me your log ins. Send me a card !
To Brainwash and have you under the control of your scammer, they may start to argue. The need to break down the victim's self esteem.
THEY WILL START THE CONTROL. You must always be there to talk, do as they say, never argue back. They say wife / husband and you need to be it. Be grateful someone as good as them will spend time on you and love you.
THE NEXT STAGE IS TO BUILD A BETTER LIFE FOR YOU, A BETTER ONE THAN YOU HAVE NOW. A Future life will be full of love, a better house for the two of you and families. A good car and travel. A better life than you have now and you will be loved. Have money and no more worries ever again.
THE END GOAL HERE IS BLIND OBEDIENCE. Where the victim does all he/she is told. Rewards are given, gifts are sent. To keep the power and control with the scammer. REPEATED WORDS HELP... 'I love you very much'... 'my queen'/king'
TESTS ARE GIVEN.. SEND CARDS OR EVEN PHONES, TO KEEP THE VICTIM PRAISED AND UNDER THE ORDERS OF THE SCAMMER.
Finally the brainwashing is complete. The victim will move away from friends and family, they may try to o the unthinkable, try to warn the victim and spoil the happiness. NOW YOUR SCAMMER HAS FULL CONTROL, BRAINWASHED AND THEY CAN HAVE YOU DO AS THEY WANT.
ANYTHING SAID AND THE VICTIM TELLS THE LOVER ! The say 'am real babe' to keep the control alive.
TIME TO PLAN THE FUTURE, WORK TOGETHER WITH MONEY, OWN A HOUSE TOGETHER. Sell your house and send your lover the money , they will take care of the two of you and families.
OPEN ACCOUNTS, GET LOANS, INVEST WITH THEM, MOVE MONEY FOR THEM, by now anything the scammer wants, they can have.
VICTIM IS ISOLATED, IN LOVE, SECURE AND COMPLIANT. This is where the emotional damage is caused and the financial carnage happens.
LEARN THE RED FLAGS AND DO NOT IGNORE THEM. GO WITH THE GUT FEELING, THE HEART LIES TO YOU.
If people give you advice and tell you.. LISTEN. They have loved you a lot longer than a stranger's words have .
RIGHT FROM THE START RESEARCH. DO NOT BLINDLY ACCEPT WHAT A STRANGER IS TELLING YOU, NOT MATTER HOW KIND, CHARMING OR HOW GOOD THEY LOOK.
ONLINE IS DANGEROUS, DON'T BE BRAINWASHED. 
